"every son of Adam make mistakes, and the best of those who make mistakes are those who repent."
my dear brothers and sisters, did you understand the above hadith? did you? the above hadith tell us, every mankind in this world will make mistake, and can't run from make mistake. it is 'fitrah'. its means no matter how perfect we think we can be, or no matter how good we think we are, or how "high up there" we feel we are, there is at the the very least, one time in our lifetime when we have slighted, hurt, damaged, wounded, upset, snubbed, offened, been rude and wronged others!
but....every mistakes we do, we can redeem it by repent. repent is the best thing we should do after make mistakes. like the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that the best of those who make mistakes are the ones who repent. totally amazing! you repent, and you become the best. isn't that sound interesting? islam is always interesting.
so, when we make mistake, what should we do? repent. right? repent to Allah. if to human? its easy, we make apologize to them. that is what the mistakes maker should do. how about the 'pemberi maaf'? what they should do?
the 'pemberi maaf' should forgive them. forgive and accept their apologize. one of my friends, have asked me "what we should do, if someone hurt us and doesn't apologize?" so, i said "just forgive them", she said back "you say like forgive them was easy to do", i smile and said "if Allah can forgive them, so, we also can forgive them.", she replied "thats Allah, not human." until today, i'm still find a suitable word to replied back. and i found it! alhamdulillah.
"and by the mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. and had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah) forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)." -al-Imraan 3:159-
Allah said that we should forgive them anyway. pass over their faults. and ask Allah to forgive them. in fact, Allah wants us to ask for forgiveness on their behalf. forgive and then ask Allah to forgive them. it seem like ridiculous. they hurt us, but we not just should forgive them, but also should ask Allah to forgive them. the instruction really caught me off guard! seriously!
can you imagine how big heart Allah wants us to have, my brothers and sisters. it is surely not so easy to do, don't you think? i admit that, its also not easy for me. that's how weak i think i might be. we tend to remember and be upset, we tend to hold grudges, maybe become resentful, maybe even wanting to "pay-back" to the person who wronged us, right? astaghfirullah..
but, that's not what Allah wants us to do, you agree? He wants us to forgive that person, and ask from Him to forgive that person, and ask from Him to forgive the person who wronged us, too. its hard. yeah totally hard. but, there have but, Allah is so Merciful and Most Kind. He knows how hard it is to do that. so, He has promised us to something wonderful should we be able to follow His words. do you want to know the reward from Allah if we are able to do that?
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
"if one gives charity it does not diminish his wealth; if one forgiveness others, Allah bestows more honour on him; and if one humbles himself for Allah's sake, he exalts him higher." -Muslim-
allahuakbar, this offer just too fantastic to pass, right? Allah has promised that if we decide to swallow our ego, pride, anger and therefore we forgive others, Allah, our Lord, will reward us with more honor. do we actually know how hard it is to get honor from another person? very hard, right? so, don't we think it is harder to get it from the Ownwer of the Universe? and He is going to bestow upon us just that- porvided we forgive others. doesn't it mnake you feel like in the act of rewarding forgiveness toward others who wronged us, we, on, the other hand, are being rewarded too? Allah, indeed, He is the Most Kind.
let me share with you a beautiful poem a girl wrote that whispers to us the Recipe of Life:
fold two hands together,and express a dash of sorrow
marinate it overnight, and work on it tomorrow
chop one grudge in tiny pieces, add several cups of love.
dredge wit a large sized smile, mix with the ingredients above
dissolve the hate within you, by doing a good deed
cut in and help your firned, if he/she should be in need
stir in laughter, love and kindness, from the heart it has to come
toss with genuine forgiveness, and give your friends some!
the amount of people served, will depend on you
it can serve whole wide world, if you really want it to!
apologize and forgive and you will feel the 'nikmat'. trust me!